Amour, Amore, Amor: What’s Your Love Language?

Just because we all know the language of love, doesn’t mean we all speak it the same way. 

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, there are five distinct ways each of us crave love and affection: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. 

So what’s your love language? 

Do you need to hear them say “I love you” or are you  more of a touchy feely type? 

Do you swoon for a helping hand or just want an afternoon with bae? 

Does a gift say it all? 

The answer is in your zodiac sign.

Click to Skip to Your Sign’s Love Language

Aries: Words of Affirmation
Taurus: Physical Touch
Gemini: Words of Affirmation
Cancer: Quality Time
Leo: Physical Touch or Receiving Gifts
Virgo: Acts of Service
Libra: Receiving Gifts
Scorpio: Quality Time or Physical Touch
Sagittarius: Quality Time
Capricorn: Receiving Gifts
Aquarius: Acts of Service
Pisces: Words of Affirmation or Acts of Service

Aries: Words of Affirmation

You’re always trying to reach your next goal. And your ideal lover is your personal cheerleader, always encouraging you by showing that they’re in your corner no matter how wild or far-fetched your plan may be! You appreciate positive affirmations, goodnight phone calls, and letters from not-so-secret admirers.

Taurus: Physical Touch

As a grounded Earth sign, there’s nothing more important to you than being physically close to your loved ones. The sweetest bliss to you is spending all day in bed with your lover: cuddling, relaxing, and of course, eating all the best snacks.

Gemini: Words of Affirmation

Let’s face it: you love to chat. That’s why you swoon for a lover who can keep up with your intellectual rabbit holes and laugh through every  gossip sesh. You want your opinions affirmed and expanded upon, but you also love a good debate. As long as there’s no debate about who loves you.

Cancer: Quality Time

You always want to be around your special people. And for you, it doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re together. Your ideal lover wants to accompany you for all of life’s milestones as well as hold your hand through the tough times.

Leo: Physical Touch or Receiving Gifts

You love being in the spotlight, which is why being physically close to your loved ones is so important to you. You want to feel their love IRL. You also don’t mind being showered with gifts (and giving them in return!) You feel loved ––and most like yourself–– when you’re being treated like royalty. 

Virgo: Acts of Service

You are everyone’s go-to when they are in crisis, which is why it means so much to you when someone else offers to pick up the slack. You want a lover who is happy to do your dishes, pick up your laundry, or take your car in for an oil change.

Libra: Receiving Gifts

As the tastemaker of the zodiac, you swoon for well-curated presents from lovers and friends alike. The token doesn’t need to be expensive or luxurious, it just needs to reflect your unique personality and aesthetic sense. You want a lover who gets you and can back it up with a gift.

Scorpio: Quality Time or Physical Touch

Though your sign is often associated with sexuality, what really matters to you is spending quality time with loved ones. As someone who cultivates a certain air of mystery, you need friends and lovers who are comfortable with all your needs––be it on the streets or in the sheets.

Sagittarius: Quality Time

Because you’re always chasing the next adventure, you need people in your life who can keep up the  pace. You want to create memories with those you love. And whether that’s backpacking through Europe or heading to a retreat with no cell service, what’s important is that you’re together.

Capricorn: Receiving Gifts

Though you’re extremely practical, you also enjoy the finer things in life and you want a lover who appreciates those things, too. Your lover knows how to select the perfect item at the best price point–– and won’t skimp out. 

Aquarius: Acts of Service

You’re a rebel with a cause and you want the people you love to not only share your values but to fight for them, too. You swoon for someone who doesn’t have to be reminded to get involved in charitable activities and worthy causes.

Pisces: Words of Affirmation or Acts of Service

Because you’re such a dreamer, you want the people you love to bring you back to Earth by reminding you how much they care. Always thinking of others before yourself, you need a lover who tells you how great you are while also taking some of that emotional labor off your plate.

Jaime Wright
About the author

Jaime Wright is an astrologer and writer from New York. She writes a weekly and monthly horoscope column for PureWow and was the co-editor of the quarterly astro journal, moon missives. Catch her leading workshops, giving consultations, or reading poems in Brooklyn. Sun: PISCES Moon: AQUARIUS Ascendant: LIBRA

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